The very moment before you say “I Do” you say the sweetest, most heartfelt words to your significant other while you’re surrounded by all of your loved ones; at that second it just feels like you two are the only two people in the world. Your vows are words that will stick around far longer than the ceremony and reception. You reach for the meaning behind your vows in times of need. Your vows are the special words that you will cherish in your heart. You’ll remember what they meant and the specific words for a life time. Even so, it may be difficult to free style on the day of your wedding. You may even feel intimidated by the challenge of writing your own vows.
In reality all that matters is if it comes from the depths of your emotions. When it comes to putting your feelings on paper or speaking in front of a large group, you may decide not to write your own vows out of fear of messing up or the words not coming out the way you thought they would. If you want to be unique without the stress of coming up with what to say on your own, you may decide to read one of your favorite poems because it embodies your feelings. Go ahead, you can even add in some of your own words to express your love if you feel comfortable. Or you might have a favorite song that speaks to your heart when you think of your soul mate; saying those lyrics would truly demonstrate your love for your mate.
You may have tried to write your vows time and time again and cannot get the words out as effectively, or you’re afraid you’ll cry like a baby, like I did. Whether you free style your vows, read a poem, quote from the lyrics of a song or repeat the vows after your Minister, it’s worth decided well in advance just in case you need to rehearse a few times. Even though you may not know what to say, it’s important that you give it some thought so you can be sure that the vows you state are from your heart. All and all, make sure you express how you feel and that you are sincere regarding the commitment you are making to your mate. Your vows should be true on your wedding day and you should do all in your power to uphold them even during hard times.
When it comes to picking songs for your wedding day, you want to make sure that you have all of your guest covered with the perfect blend of music for a great time. Finding the right DJ or live entertainment and ensuring that they can handle the playlist is a must. You want the music to flow and your guest to dance all night long to songs they’ll enjoy. Most importantly, you want to make sure the DJ plays those songs that brings back golden memories at the right moment.
Some Brides and Grooms may decide to have a live band for cocktail hour which will keep the energy high while waiting for the Bride and Groom to be welcomed into the reception. Be sure to chose upbeat music, Jazz or maybe even a Scat Band to make your guest comfortable while they mix and mingle awaiting your arrival.
When it comes to your Disc Jockey make sure that he is set up properly, speakers are placed in the right spot, and he is aware of the song schedule. Some Brides might not have their reception and ceremony in a different location, therefore the DJ needs to be ready to make that change when needed and have speakers in the proper rooms.
Make sure the DJ has the order for when the songs should be played and the songs that you don't want played at your wedding. Also you'll want to ask your DJ to provide mic's for Bride, Groom, Minister and Soloist if necessary. A wireless handheld will do but you may prefer that each have a lapel mic. This will ensure that everyone can hear you stating your vows. You'll of course want one for those making toast during reception to be heard also.
Overall, make sure the DJ plays songs that will make everyone want to stay on the dance floor all night long! Some people are against line songs but those songs will make everyone young and old want to move and groove. So, keep your options open and even go check out the DJ play on a Saturday before you book him/her, therefore you'll know their style and the type of music they play.
When it comes to deciding on what colors to have for you wedding, your mind can go from every color in the rainbow to simply “black and white”. Plus the more you think about mixing and matching certain colors, it might not turn out to be the perfect pallet. Here are a few ideas on how to pick a color scheme for your wedding day?
Look at wedding magazines for inspiration. Wedding magazines and websites are plastered with several colors and themes. Make a Favorites List of which colors catch your eye and are most pleasing to you. Also, think of what type of vibe you want to go for, do you want a more romantic feel or whimsical garden vibe? These themes and color can help set the atmosphere for your wedding. Certain colors make you feel differently, like purple and red are colors of passion. Keep that in mind when looking for wedding colors.
Think about the season you’re getting married in. The season in which you decide to have your wedding can help with choosing your wedding colors. Look at the seasonal colors, pastels are more of a spring color and you’ll be able to find the décor that you’re looking for during that season. Mocha and earth tone colors are associated more with the fall, so those colors and flowers that compliment it will be flourishing during that time.
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Once you book your venue and get your table décor locked in, you might start to ponder if you should have a seating arrangement for the reception or even the ceremony. Traditionally, the Brides family and guest sits on the left facing the alter and the Grooms family and guest sits on the right side during the ceremony. After the knot is tied and you two become one, during the reception you can opt to assign seats for your guest or have them sit wherever they like.
A few reasons to let your guest decide where they want to sit are based solely on your preference. Some couples decide that it’s too much unnecessary hassle to create seating charts plus at that point you’ll be family, pick a sit and not a side. This will allow your guest the freedom to enjoy the reception from their preferred vantage point. Keep in mind, even if you don’t have assigned seats, you should still create an updated wedding RSVP list with the names of individuals that have confirmed they’ll be in attendance for the wedding. This will allow all guests to be accounted for and everyone will have a seat as long as they have returned their RSVP in a timely manner.
If you decide to have a seating chart, there are always cute ways to display the seating chart. Think about the guest that you’re inviting and their personalities, relationship status, and even professions. You might not want to have your 25 year old, single cousin that likes to party, sitting next to your fiancés uncle and aunt that have been married 30 years and are more calm individuals. When deciding on whom to put at each table, put your single friends with his single friends and your childhood friend who loves Art, with your college best friend that majored in graphic design. You’ll want everyone to enjoy their company at the table and during the cocktail hour of mixing and mingling; they’ll find that they have common interest.
Your wedding venue is one of the most important parts of your wedding. Once you decide on a date and book your venue, you can pretty much get the ball rolling. Always keep in mind when the peak seasons are for weddings, because the price will be higher and you’ll have to decide on a spot quickly.
Remember your budget. I know you may find a venue that seems perfect for your day; you may want to stretch your budget to get that location to fit in your price range. Depending on if you can afford to alter your budget to book the venue, you may consider doing so, but keep in mind there may be several other venues that offer the same amenities at the same or lower price. If you have a wedding coordinator, like us, they may have business contracts and relationships with different venues to get it at a discounted price. To get meals plated is always more expensive than buffet style. So, make sure your venue is open to doing the one you prefer and check to see if you can bring in your own licensed caterer; that may allow you to save a little more.
Think about your guest list. You may want to invite everyone you, your mother, father and siblings have ever met to the wedding, but you have to feed all of those people. Imagine throwing a spectacular, intimate and personal event where you are providing food, drinks, entertainment and everything, you wouldn’t offer an invitation to everyone, only individuals with whom you have a relationship.
Themed weddings. Themed wedding are very popular now, so finding a venue to coordinate with your love story might be a little frustrating. Try looking for venues that are all inclusive, from decorations, bridal suite and having your ceremony and reception at the same building. This will allow you to save a little more and even if you can't find the exact venue you’d pictured...it can always be decorated to perfection.
As we welcome a new month and say "Hello" to summer, we must acknowledge our summer brides and grant you with a few "things to remember" for your summer wedding. Often as a bride you only think about the obvious when it comes to your wedding day and if you're having an outside wedding... .you just pray that it doesn't rain! Well, lets not forget about a few other things for which you should be prepared.
Heels or flats. When walking outside in a grassy area, it's difficult to not let your heels sink into the grass when you're walking and standing. You can chose to do a wedge or look online for shoe stoppers that will prevent you from sinking into the ground and possibly falling. You can always do sandals too!
So, we would love to hear more tips on how to make your summer wedding a blast! Comment Below!
On your wedding day you want to be surrounded by people you love and have your best friends, sisters, and standing next to you and of course your husband to be as you tie the knot. Picking your bridesmaids can be the easiest task or the most complicated. Overall, understand that whoever you chose should only add to the joy of your big day, not make it stressful.
When it comes to family members, it's nice to incorporate them but, make sure you have a genuine relationship with each person, from your sisters, cousins and even your aunts. Don't just put them in your wedding because you're related by blood, do it based off of the bond. They may or may not understand it, so be prepared for attitudes but overall if they don't support you or your union, why bother.
You may have friends from different walks of life that you have grown to love and depend on. Those friends are the ones you should include, from your best friend since kindergarten to your first college roommate. You may have expressed your excitement for your wedding day and even shared dreams of that day with them in the past. If you consider those individuals to be the ones that you would like to remember when you think of your wedding day, make sure they’re apart of it.
You may find that you don't have as many people that you would consider a close enough friend to help plan with you, and that's okay too! Who says you have to even have bridesmaids. Just make sure that the people you pick are determined to make your day special, you'll be surprised to see other people make YOUR wedding about THEM. So, make sure they have you and your future husband’s best interest at heart!
You just got engaged, picked the best season to get married in and now you’re in the process of getting in shape for your wedding day! That’s something that most brides forget about or don’t take as serious, but ladies….we all know that we want to look AMAZING walking down the aisle with confidence, like Beyonce’ herself. Plus, it wouldn’t hurt to have a body like hers, too!
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